And then I chopped off all my hair, true story

For as long as I can remember, my hair has played a huge role in my identity.
Not because it was fantastic or pin-worthy. And not because it was horrible.
But because my hair told a story–my story.
A story, that for a long time, I wasn’t ready to share.

Then one day I felt vulnerable.
The good kind of vulnerable.
The kind of vulnerable that gives you courage to tell your story if it might, even in some small way, help someone else along in their journey.

So I swallowed my nerves, I typed it out and published my secret for anyone to read.
Over the years, I told you about my hair pulling.
My extensions–that I’ve had in religiously for the last 7 years.
My thinning patches.
My tips for covering bald spots.
My obstacles and frustrations…

The love and support I received from so many of you was overwhelming.
The love and support you showed EACH OTHER melted my heart and gave me strength.
But most importantly, you reminded me that I wasn’t alone–WE aren’t alone.
We all have something–something we don’t want the world to use to define us.
Some weakness we hope to turn into a strength.
Something we want to be brave enough to share with the world,
and be loved in return–regardless.
Thank you for making me feel loved–regardless.

Lately, I feel like my hair has been weighing me down.
Figuratively and literally.
It has felt tiresome. Like a burden.
I’ve lacked the motivation to style it.
My hair extensions started to feel like a constant reminder of my weaknesses.
And with the thinning areas on top feeling “extra” thin lately, I felt defeated every time I pulled out the blow dryer.
Also, have I mentioned that I’m turning 30 in a month?
Yeah, maybe that has a little something to do with it too πŸ˜‰

I needed a fresh start.
So again, I swallowed my nerves.Β  And called my dear friend Brittney.
Me: So are you ready to chop off all my hair? And no more extensions.
Brittney: Bring it on.
And so we did.

I LOVE long hair.
So I can’t exactly explain why I feel like a new person with my shorter locks–a person with more energy. A person not being held back. A person with the will power to resist the urge to pull…And you know what?…I’m not going to spend too much time trying to figure it out–I’m just going to embrace it.

long hair
Hair on Sunday, BEFORE chop chop (also, I had already removed my extensions).
For those who emailed asking, dress found here. I also have it in black.
1-IMG_0659Hair, without extensions, before cut.



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short hair LMM
hair cut smiling
little miss momma hair cut
mid length hair cut little miss momma

Ashley Stock
I'm Ashley. Sometimes I craft, occasionally I cook, everyday I write, and I'm always Momma. This is my blog. I keep it real while still seeing the rainbows and butterflies in all of life's lessons.
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  1. It is adorable !!!!! What a fun change

  2. Hi there…as I look at these last few photos of your new cut, I see a new-ness in you…a sense of happiness and renewal. So happy for you and all of the other triumphs you will have this year. Go you!

  3. Ashley it looks amazing!! And you do look like a new refreshed and energized version of your incredible self! I have followed you for at least 3 years now and you have been such an inspiration to me throughout so many points in life! I too turn 30 this year (March 16th Ahh!!) and as a momma to an awesome 5 year old boy, I understand what it feels like to need to do something big for yourself! Thank you for always sharing your life with all of us, it’s funny because I feel as if you are a dear friend of mine even though we’ve never even spoken to eachother! But you share the real you, and that is so refreshing in this world! So rock that new style lady because it looks amazing on you and it makes my heart happy to see you smiling so brightly again!!

  4. Love it short!

  5. It’s darling! Because you’re darling! I love it! Change is good.

    I’m pretty sure your friend Brittney was good friends in High School with my SIL Bree (Bigler) Hafen. – small world. πŸ™‚

  6. You look amazing with that new haircut!

  7. Teri Wendt says:

    Praise God for your courage, I love it !!! It looks so beautiful and healthy and you are just gorgeous anyhow. You look like you feel like a burden has been lifted. I am happy for you !!!!! Please know that hair does not define who we are. After I decided to shave my head due to my first chemo treatment last March I felt so much better. My hair started growing back last July very slowly but you know what? I am loving my new faux hawk hair style. I am 53 years old and have always had long hair. I would never have done it on my own so God gave me a little push in that direction. You are a blessing and an inspiration to many.

    Take care and God bless you and your family.
    Teri Wendt

  8. you look gorgeous! it feets you really nice!!!

  9. Melissa Horowitz says:

    It’s so cute. You look amazing.

  10. You look radiant! Love the haircut! Good for you !!

  11. Oh, You look Gorgeous with your new hair! Don’t worry it will grow back. And do try some natural treatments to your hair, and it will be thick again. πŸ™‚

    • Like what kind of natural treatments?? My hair is thinning. No hormone issues that we can find. Just a history of high dose long term steroids, methotrexate, and naturally thinning hair before all that started…

      When I was younger I had thick gorgeous hair. I would do anything to have it back…

      Thanks in advance for getting back to me!

  12. Love love love! Oh, I chop off my locks here and there and it’s so completely refreshing! I have naturally curly hair so no one ever wants me to cut it but the rebel in me soaks up the change πŸ™‚ I adore this cut on you it’s so precious!

  13. Vanessa Lowder says:

    Its soooo cute!!!

  14. Love it! You look great! And so happy!

  15. Oh Ashley. Your smile in the after pictures make my heart smile. I am excited to see this new change and how you embrace it. Love you lots friend and know I am always here to chat if you need to.

  16. I **love** it!! Such a sassy cut!

  17. I love love it!!! Super cute:) I loved seeing this first thing and was able to read with my coffee!!! I miss your posts:) also where is your shirt from???

  18. YES!!!!!!! It’s the best!!!! love love love it πŸ™‚

  19. Proud of you for cutting your hair! You look more stunning with shorter hair! πŸ™‚

  20. I love your new ‘do– it looks great!

  21. Oh my goodness! It truly looks incredible!

  22. Audrey Crisp says:

    Love it!!!! You look amazing! Good for you! I think I wanna cut mine too! It’s been driving me nuts lately. Good job!

  23. You just took my breath away! I swear you are even cutter with it shorter! I am sitting here with my jaw on the floor. I love it! Whoa! You look amazing!!

  24. LOVE!!

  25. So proud of you! It’s looks fantastic!
    Love you,

  26. It is absolutely adorable and you look so happy with it – yay for being brave!

  27. LOVE it!! Gorgeous girl!

  28. It’s ADORABLE!!! I love it!

  29. And then it was cute all over again!!!!

  30. Looks so cute on you! Love the new ‘do!


  31. You are so stinkin adorable!!

  32. It looks fantastic! I love it – embrace the change!!

  33. Marsha Kern says:

    How cute! I love it!

  34. Looks amazing! Love it!

  35. Love it! Seriously. So sassy. πŸ™‚

  36. By the way…what color are your walls painted in that photo of you holding your son? Love.

  37. Kristyn Stirling says:

    I love it!!! You look gorgeous!!

  38. Adorable. I love it! This is a very cute cut for you.

  39. I love it, you look so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story, it brings strength to so many.

  40. Soooo cute!!

  41. I love it! You have inspired me to chop since I’ll be turning 40!! Also, where is your tshirt from. I have two young boys as well and always need a cute short to pull on fast!

  42. Wow! You look amazing with that hair!! Of course you did before but, really it is great!!

  43. It TOTALLY suits you! What a doll!

  44. I love it! It looks so healthy. And it looks beautiful!

  45. Obsessed with your hair!!!!!!!! You are making me want to go chop all mine off!! You look fabulous! xx Liz Marie

  46. I just love your hair!!! You look happier in the pictures (even though you’ve always looked happy to me πŸ˜‰ I’ve been debating cutting my locks too. Maybe I’ll just go do it!

  47. I absolutely love it! Makes me want to cut mine now! πŸ™‚

  48. Yup I have been thinking of cutting mine too. Hmm maybe I should just do it. Yours looks amazing!

  49. I think you would still look adorable even itf you had short spikey blue hair haha πŸ™‚ Uh, not that i recomend that though. The new do looks awesome πŸ™‚ haha

  50. It’s adorable! I’m in love! I’ve been seriously debating (and Pinning like crazy) short hair cuts, too. I just need to get rid of the nerves I have. I identify with my long hair and am so afraid to let it go. Hubby wants me to cut it so I don’t spend as much time blow drying it. LOL I just don’t know!!! Proud of you!

  51. You look fabulous and so happy! What a fantastic thing to do before you turn 30! I had a baby and turned 30 a week later πŸ™‚

  52. Tracy French says:

    You look as beautiful as ever! I love the cut, it really fits you:)

  53. Looks fantastic – and you look super happy!

  54. You are SO beautiful momma! LOVE the new hair!

  55. I’ve been a long hair fanatic for a long time. I’ve worn extensions off and on for the last 7 years as well. I’m always feeling unsatisfied with the length of my own hair. But never never do I consider cutting it short. It’s sort of a pet peeve of mine when girls get married and cut off their long hair. BUT DANG you totally just changed my mind! Your hair looks soo cute short, it really tempts me to cut mine! Way to be brave, you are rocking it!

  56. LOVE the hair! So cute! I actually just chopped mine off almost the exact same. Same thing, needed something new, something fresh… and I feel like a new woman! How do you style your hair? Do you use a curling iron or flat iron?

  57. Leslie Wilkie says:

    I’ve been reading your blog for a couple years and you are always such an inspiration. I love that you share who you really are. Your hair looks ; it’s kind of making me want to do the same!

  58. It looks AMAZING! What a great way to start the new year! I already have my appointment set and inspiration photos ready for my next chop, and your new do is definitely getting added to the mix!

  59. Love love love! Immediately saved this and called my hairdresser. GAW-JUS!
    You have inspired so many, including myself. Your honesty is rare, your smile and wit come through in your words and are visible in your eyes. I’m still working on “my something” – I’m still struggling everyday, it’s true that we all have “our thing”. Therapy has been invaluable to me, always a work in progress. Good days, bad days. Great moments, then moments of weakness that seem to wreck all the progress.
    Thank you. Just thanks πŸ™‚

  60. oh, and what kind of jeans are you wearing? love the fade!

  61. I love it! You look absolutely adorable.

  62. steph nelsen says:

    you are adorable! your smile makes me want to smile back : )

  63. Oh friend! I love it so much, can’t wait to see it in person.

  64. You’re a total babe! Love this look on you!

  65. Wow, you look stunning!! I LOVE it! You are such a brave lady and I truly admire you. You look perfect! πŸ™‚

  66. you look better with a short hair… its fantastic

  67. It’s BEAUTIFUL and looks so healthy. You are a beautiful woman to begin with
    and the shorter lengthy is awesome. It’s funny…I ever so many years will
    cut my hair just for something new and to get it in better shape. I just
    did that a couple of months ago and read your post, admired your long hair, thought
    about getting extensions and wished my hair was longer. My hair is about
    your new length and I love it. You can still rock a ponytail, a messy bun …it’s a very
    versatile length.

    You look great and your hair is amazing!

  68. that looks adorable on you and so sassy.I love love love it! way to go!

  69. looks great and just think of the extra time you will have with this new freedom. curious about how the boys reacted when they saw Mommy’s new haircut.

  70. Michelle H. says:

    Were you hiding such a beautiful face and amazing eyes behind all that hair?! …this new haircut brings focus to your real beauty .

  71. You are so beautiful and so brave! I love your new haircut – AND your gorgeous, happy smile!!!

  72. Now you’ve done it! I totally wanna chop my hair off too!!!!!!

  73. Hi Ashley, your new haircut looks SO cute! I love it and you look so happy! Thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

  74. Marly Budde says:

    I love it! Short hair looks anazing on you.

  75. Beautiful! Shorter hair is so fun isn’t it!?!

  76. You are beautiful. Inside and Out. Absolutely love the new style you’re rockin!!!

  77. It looks incredible!! I love it!!!!

  78. I have been following your blog but never commented. I thought it took so much courage when you initially posted about your hair. You are a beautiful young lady and I LOVE your new cut. You are simply adorable.

  79. Wendy Orme says:

    Such a cute new ‘do!

  80. You’re hair cut is amazing. I use long hair to hide my thinning hair, too… Every a while I get crazy and cut it short Hubbs hates that and as soon as it’s short (like chin length bobs?) I hate it too… But what you’ve done?

    I’m saving your pic and taking it with me…

    I love it!

  81. You look GREAT!! I love your new haircut! Congratulations on this hard endeavor. You are amazing and such a great role model for so many people. Thanks!

  82. It looks amazing! You are so beautiful!

  83. Hey good looking! Love, Love your hair! The movie stars on TV has cut their hair and they don’t have anything over you.

  84. I love it!! Love the new look.

  85. I almost never comment on blogs but Oh holy crap you look gorgeous! Absolutely love the new cut!!!

  86. Mandy Crosbie says:

    Love it! πŸ™‚

  87. You mentioned hair pulling so I’m assuming you had Trichotillomania (but it doesn’t seem to be super bad) but either way, the cut is very cute and I love the pictures and in some ways, know the struggle (but more with my eyebrows and eyelashes rather than the hair on my head). Since it’s hard to stop, I wish you much luck! πŸ™‚

  88. I absolutely love it!

  89. Beautiful! Looks great on you!

  90. Ashley!! It’s beautiful. Capital-B BEAUTIFUL!!

  91. Thanks for sharing your story..
    Keeping it utterly amazingly real.
    That rocks!!
    The hair looks adorable!

  92. Love Love it!! Looks great !! I have been thinking about cutting my hair as well:)

  93. New Year! New Look! I always say to my clients πŸ™‚ I am a hairstylist and I understand your crown journey. I have serveral clients with the same challenge. I LOVE this New Do on you! Gives you a bold, mature and yet graceful look! Let yourself shine! Happy New Year …God Bless you and have Favor over you and your beautiful family!

    • Oh and Happy Birthday! This is when you will really enjoy who you are! Something about the 30’s you really find your inner self! Enjoy!

  94. It looks beautiful!! And you!!!! You look HAPPY.

  95. While I loved your long hair, it looks really, really nice. I had long hair forever and one day decided I wanted and needed a change. I went pretty short a few years back and it felt so great. I can’t even explain it. I imagine the same way you’re probably feeling right now.
    Happy early birthday!

  96. The new do looks amazing. Absolutely love it. And I’m so glad you’re feeling so happy in your own skin (and hair!)

  97. Ashley, you are still beautiful as ever! Long or short, either way looks great on you!

  98. so fresh and perfect!

  99. ADORABLE!!!! You look amazing (and strong!), as usual!! πŸ™‚

  100. Please tell us more about the actual cut – I LOVE it, and I LOVE it on you. I am thinking of cutting mine to this length – actually had an appointment last week, but the salon needed to reschedule. Blah. I’d love to take your photo in for inspiration. can you give more details – layering? shorter in the back? Thanks!

  101. LOVE your hair!! It looks so good on you and I’m so jealous. I’ve had long hair for a while and, like everyone else that has commented, I now want to cut my hair shorter. You’ve completely inspired me. I just turned 31 and I can tell you that 30 isn’t bad at all. I have loved being 30 and always thought I would hate it. I know more now than ever who I am. So far being in my 30’s has been awesome. And now you have a FABULOUS hair cut to usher you into your 30’s. It will be great!

  102. I love the new haircut!! I am a fellow hair puller and I recently cut my hair shorter like yours as well, so I can totally relate! I was never styling my hair anymore and it totally felt like it was dragging me down. Since I cut my hair my best friend and sister have been convinced to do so as well. Sometimes we all just need a fresh start!

  103. Looks FAB! You are adorable;)

  104. Ahhhh oh my goodness girl I love this! You look better than ever πŸ™‚

  105. So much cuter! (And you look so happy!) I feel like long hair is so generic. I love to see personality. Good for you!

  106. You are the most adorable thing I’ve seen all day!

  107. It’s so adorable and it looks great on you!!

  108. stunning!!

  109. Wow, it looks absolutely gorgeous!

  110. You look AMAZING!! I love it pretty lady!

  111. i LOVE it! wow! seriously, so cute and sexy and sweet! πŸ™‚

  112. You look absolutely stunning! I love it!

  113. Wow! I love it!!! Great cut for you!

  114. I just had a friend tell me about your blog today. I am so excited to follow your story!
    I have a 7 year old who has tricho and has done since she was a baby! But now being in 2 nd grade and severely struggling in school it has gotten worse because of the anxiety and this is how she self soothes! THANK YOU, for sharing your story!!!

  115. I have done the same drastic thing! And let me tell you, according to the hair books, you’re hair is still considered “long” :). Now, can you do a tutorial on how you styled it for the pics??

  116. It looks great. A good length. Long enough to still style a bit but still quite the amount cut off.

  117. You look radiant! And refreshed! Thanks for sharing this post!

  118. You are ADORABLE! I love this! Thanks for the honest and real post – LOVE IT!

  119. Wow…absolutely gorgeous! Well done for being brave…I said that once I turned 30 I’d chop my locks too but still haven’t go around to it!

    Katie x

  120. Love the cut, very cute. I think you look great with the long hair!

  121. You are absolutely gorgeous! I love that hairstyle on you! I might just have to show my hair stylist this picture when I get my hair cut next ;D
    Stopping by from Erin’s! I’m excited to have found your blog!!

  122. You look SO beautiful. Like a completely different person!

  123. Catherine says:

    Great cut! Could you share how you styled it? My hair is the same length and I’ve yet to figure out how to get the loose curls you’re rocking.


  124. WOW!! you look lovely miss. I do not not think I have ever seen you smile so big. I love it! and I hope you found the change you were looking for. I can see it is written all over your face! GORGEOUS!

  125. I love the hair. I am going to have to read what the secret is… apparently I am behind on my reading. Again I LOVE the new style.

  126. Oh my goodness!! I absolutely love it! You still look like you, just different but in an amazing way.

  127. Short hair suits you well. You look beautiful πŸ™‚

  128. Sexy!!!! But more importantly: HAPPY!

    Good work, Momma!

  129. Love love love your new hairdo!

  130. Hello Ashley,

    I never thought that I would read this in your blog as I myself go through the same things. a good section of my hair is no more than 1 – 1.5 inches long. I struggle with this ever single day of my life. The best way I describe it is, imagine if you were an alcoholic and rum came out of your finger tips. I am attached to my addiction/habit and I take it everywhere I go. It makes me sad because I don’t feel pretty without a beautiful crowning glory and every morning I do my best to cover up the short spots. There are time where I go a long time without pulling my hair and I think “wow! I actually did it, I beat it this time!” only to spiral back into the dark tunnel of Trich. I hope you write more on this topic because it has helped me and is motivating me to get better with it.

    Thank you again for sharing.

    — Ashley

  131. You are beautiful!! Love the new hair!

  132. It looks great! How did you get that fantastic wave? A curling iron or a ceramic iron?

  133. Love it! So so flattering on you! (:

  134. Ah, your 30s are such a great time!! Of course, everyone said that to me too and it didn’t change how I felt. But I am thankful to be turning 39 this year and actually looking forward to my 40s instead of dreading them. πŸ™‚


  135. lacey logan says:

    Love your new hair, it is so cute on you! I need to learn how to curl my hair like that!

  136. Don’t know if the decision to cut your hair was trichotillomania related or not. Anyway, it looks nice! And your courage and spirit encourage me! Keep it up Momma!

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  140. Hi,
    I love your haircut you look more younger. But I have a question. Your hair color is natural or if you use something what product and color you use? Tks and really nice blog.

  141. Linda Mae says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. Your new ‘do is fabulous. My daughter who is 7 has been pulling since she was 6 months old. All the doctors told me she would grow out of it and now 7 years later she still hasn’t. But hearing your story gives me a little insight into what she is going through. Even though you don’t have the answers, your story still brings encouragement to those who have.

  142. I love long hair (and I have been trying to grow it out forever), but I absolutely love your new cut. Fresh and spring-y.

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  144. Jennifer says:

    my son has trich and he is 8…. we are working through it the best we can, but it is so HARD sometimes. I always worry about him, and hope that we will get this worked out. He has NO eyebrows, and NO eyelashes… and I am a mess because of it…. Everyday I hope and pray that someone will be able to help him! Thank you for having the courage to tell your story… The more stories like yours get out, the more understanding the world will be! This can be a really rough world and life to live, but we must remember that we never know what inner battles people are fighting every. single. day!

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  147. You would still be hot even with a Mohawk, but your long hair was transcendant!

  148. I love it. What I like most is you look happier and your spirit seems lighter. Enjoy.

  149. I did the same and I loved it!! You look stunning with short hair πŸ™‚

  150. I’m taking these pictures to my hairdresser this week! It’s beautiful, sophisticated, but still so fun!

  151. charlotterose says:

    agh this is me! i usually can’t explain why my hair is important to me,yet at the same time i really do know it is just hair and yet you summarized it perfectly. hah.

    currently extension free for the first time in 3 years and its…different…ah!

    love your hair…and excited for a new site to read! πŸ™‚

  152. Hey Ashley! I just found your blog and it means so much that you shared your secret with the world! I’ve had trick since I was 12 (now 25). The only thing that I have found that helps me is only washing my hair twice a week. Teasing and dry shampoo’ing the crown of my hair makes it a lot harder for me to pull from that area. I still relapse on days where I’m really stressed or my hair is clean but I don’t do it every day like I used to! Thank you for your tips, I can’t wait to read your posts and learn from your experiences as well as my own! Thank you so much

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