Feeling Beauty Full


Beautiful. Or as I prefer to call it: Beauty Full.

True beauty isn’t about mirrors or makeup. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin.

True beauty is easier to possess than it is to feel. Just because you are beautiful, doesn’t mean you feel that way. Sometimes we need to be reminded. At least I do, anyway. I need daily tips and tricks and encouragement, to remind me that it is okay to feel beautiful.

So that’s why I’ve put together this post, focusing on just a few of the tools I use to help feel beautiful every day.

1. Feeling beautiful means giving compliments, and graciously accepting them when they are given to you. I can’t tell you how many times I have been guilty of deflecting a compliment.

Friend: Ashley, you look great today. You’re an adorable pregnant Momma.

Me: Are you kidding me? I’m a beast! I’m green, not glowing. But thanks…

And then I usually throw in some awkward chuckle signifying that I’m laughing at myself and down playing the harsh words I just said about my own physical appearance. Why did I even bother to throw in the “but thanks”? Quite honestly, it’s ridiculous—and putting myself down certainly doesn’t make me feel beautiful.

When people compliment you, don’t deflect. Believe them, and then say thank you.

2. Laugh at yourself daily. Not in a self-deprecating way…but in an “I am so dang funny, I can’t get enough of myself” kind of way. Regardless of the circumstances surrounding your day, just the simple act of smiling and allowing yourself to laugh will increase those endorphins that make you happy. Whenever Ben and I are in a “disagreement”, he always tries to do something silly to make me laugh. And I try my darndest not to crack a smile…because I’m ridiculously stubborn and I know that once I smile at his goofiness I’ll likely forget what was upsetting me (or at least it won’t seem as bad).

3. Friends matter. Surround yourself with people who make you feel beautiful. The older I get, the more I realize how important it is to surround yourself with good people you admire. These are your best friends, the ones who make you feel beautiful, even when you need a little convincing. Eliminate toxic relationships. And if you’re not sure how to tell if a relationship is toxic, just consider how you feel when you’re around that person. Do you like the person you are when you spend time with them? Do they make you the best version of yourself? Do they make you want to be better? Do they think you’re beautiful?

4. Go outside. Fresh air is cleansing, so get some. There is beauty all around. Get out. Breathe it in. Soak it up. And let the beauty of the outside world reflect in your countenance. I can’t tell you how many times Ben has come home from work to find me agitated and caught up in a juggling act of doing laundry, while making play dough shapes, while preparing dinner, while changing diapers. The first thing he always says to me is: “Have you been outside today?” On days that I am especially short-tempered and grouchy, I notice that the answer is often NO. And at that moment, I hand him the baby, take off my apron and step outside. I close my eyes, take in the silence and let the sun hit my face. It’s amazing what a little fresh air can do to make you feel beautiful.

5. See the beauty that your children see in you. Young children are pure. They haven’t yet been tainted with judgement. They haven’t yet learned that we’re human and that we make mistakes. They forgive quickly and they love deeply. To them, we are the boo boo kissers, the PB&J makers, the bedtime snugglers, the super heroes. To them we are perfect. To them we are beautiful. They see the best in us, reminding us that we should see the best in ourselves.

What about you? When do you feel beautiful?

This post is made possible by BlogHer’s My Beautiful Moment editorial series, made possible by Olay.

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    October 17, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing these Ashley. Its sometimes hard to feel beautiful on the average days. Of course the days we spend hours getting our hair primped and make up done its easy to remember, but other days not so much. So thanks for the simple reminders. PS, feeling the fresh air makes me feel 10 times better too!

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    Heidi @browneyedgirlygirl
    October 17, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    Such a great post!
    1) Just getting dressed in regualar clothes (not in sweats) makes me feel beautiful
    2) When my husband tells me I’m beaufiful, I feel like the prettiest girl in the world
    3) When a grown man gives me a double take (not talking about lusty looks, just admiring looks)
    4) When someone tells me that I’m a nice person (I feel beautiful INSIDE)
    5) Fresh tan does wonders

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    October 17, 2012 at 5:34 pm

    What an uplifting message, not to mention cute and well done! I just forwarded this to all of the Beauty Full women and moms that I surround myself with in my life! Thank you 😉

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    [email protected]
    October 17, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    I am the same way–a little piece of me shrivels up and dies if I don’t get outside enough! I especially love being by the water. Even looking at those pictures of your cute little fam by the water soothes me. 🙂

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    Mejia Mamma
    October 17, 2012 at 6:56 pm

    that was simply Beauty FULL – great post!

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    October 17, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    Thank you!

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    October 17, 2012 at 9:48 pm

    Your’e incredible! I think you look beautiful all the time (you also look allot like one of the Olsen twins) thanks for this post!

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    October 17, 2012 at 9:49 pm

    Fantastic post! I will also add:

    -when my husband looks into my eyes
    -after a good workout
    -playing with children
    -During a good quiet time with the Lord
    -after a good nap- someone once told me it’s the time you look the most beautiful!

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    October 18, 2012 at 12:13 am

    This is such great advice! I agree, kiddos are the sweetest. I’m a substitute and little ones are always the first to say “you’re pretty!” or “you’re so beautiful.” I always remember to respond with reminding them that they, too are beautiful. The more they hear it now the better (:

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    October 18, 2012 at 11:50 am

    loved this post.
    It’s nice to have a pep talk. 😉
    Love the B&W photos too.

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    October 19, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    Thanks for this post Ashley! I often so busy taking care of everyone else, that I forget to take care of myself. Thank you for the good reminders!

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    October 20, 2012 at 1:43 am

    Your posts are so beautiful! Thank you for posting!

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    [email protected] Happened
    October 21, 2012 at 3:56 pm

    such an inspiring post! thank you!

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