Dear Mom, Love Sawyer


Inspired by my favorite commercial.
You can watch it here.
And you can play along even.
Write a letter to you, as if written by your child.
Be sure to give yourself some credit in the letter.
Acknowledge those things you do well.
This can be your Mother’s Day gift to yourself *wink*.
And then, link up in the comments.

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photoCross legged babe.

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photo copy 4A look through the crack in the door during nap time.

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Letter to me, from Sawyer:

Dear Mom,

You’re doing OK, Mom.

I’m a pretty easy baby.
For now.
This quality is my gift to you.
Thank you for recognizing this blessing in me every day.

I know how badly you want to be perfect at this–at being my Momma.
And I’m sure there will be times that I’ll resent you for the mistakes you’ll inevitably make.
But please know, in the future, when I throw a fit, or embarass you in public, or make you question every parenting decision you have ever made–even then, I’m just doing my job. My job as both your greatest trial and your greatest joy.

Please know, I’m happy.
And Wesley is too.
I know you worry about that a lot.
And if I could talk, I would tell you to stop.
Stop worrying.
Because we’re doing OK too.

He loves me, you know–Wesley.
And he’s proud of me.
I’ve changed his heart.
And taught him to be gentle.
Wrestling my brother and waiting for him to greet me at my crib every morning are my favorite times of day.
I like to chew on him too. He’s pretty awesome for letting me do that.

I know you also worry that you and I don’t connect enough, or get our quality time…
because my brother still takes so much of your attention and energy.
But Mom, I feel connected.
To you, to Dad and to Wesley.

Like when you crawl from the front seat of the car
and squish next to me while we’re on a long drive and I’m upset.
I love how you do that.
Because all I want is to see your face.
And wrap my tiny hand around your finger.

Or when you wrap me to your chest while you vacuum the house,
just so we can be close.
I like to be close to you Mom.
Like the crawling up your body,
pulling your hair,
and licking your face kind of close.
Thanks for not complaining when I lick your face.
You’re cool like that Mom.

Mom, you can’t sing.
In fact, you’re terrible at it.
But thank you for trying anyway.
Your rendition of “You Are My Sunshine”,
no matter how off key, still makes me smile and brings me comfort.

Thanks for being resourceful enough to wipe my nose with your sleeve,
and brave enough to eat that mystery food particle off my cheek when you can’t find a wipe,
and infatuated enough to cuddle me close even when I smell like sour spit-up.

It’s okay that it sometimes takes you 3 weeks to catch up on my laundry,
or that I sometimes stay in my pajamas all day,
or that you let me eat puffs that have fallen on the floor.
I get it.

Because you’re trying.
Really hard.
I can see that,
and I can hear it when you pray for me.

And that “trying hard” part is the lesson you are teaching me.
To not give up.
To learn from failures.
To forgive myself.
And to grow.

Because you’re not perfect.
And even though I’m just a little squirt,
I already know that.
And I love you anyway.


Sawyer (10 months old)


Side note: My sweet and talented friend, Heather of River & Bridge, has come up with this really cool new product called bridgeBOX–designed to encourage us to bring back the art of a handwritten note. It’s a great way to get beautiful, high quality notecards at a discounted price. Heather is my go-to gal for all of my design and print material (Christmas cards, stationary, post cards, etc). Her eye for design really is amazing. Check out her shop to see what I mean, and sample her work with the new bridgeBOX.


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  • Reply
    May 8, 2013 at 8:47 am

    I always look forward to your posts. They make me smile, especially these happy ones where you talk about your boys. They’re wonderful kids. And you’re a wonderful Momma. I know we’ve never met, but I feel like I know you.

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    May 8, 2013 at 11:08 am

    This post is so sweet. He is ADORABLE! Just look at those dimples and that hair!! this was such a cute idea for a post. and, in my humble opinion, the perfect moms are the ones that do pj days and the 5 second rule. We don’t want the kids to think we expect perfection in everything or else the will grow up frustrated that they will never be able to meet our expectations. 🙂

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    Di DePro
    May 8, 2013 at 1:04 pm

    I’m sitting here with my baby sleeping on me, afraid to move, not to wake him up and reading this post. Tears were rolling down my cheeks and even laughing at some parts! This is beautiful! As a first time mom, to a 10 month old, you have touched my heart with this letter. Reading this is everything I think a mom needs to hear, especially a first time mom. Thank you for posting! 😉

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    May 8, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    Ashley – You are an incredible person, writer, wife and mother – inside & out! I stumbled across your blog a while back and have been hooked since day one! If we didn’t live on different coast – I know we could be great friends! I have laughed, cried, and had my heart smile just from reading your beautiful words! Keep doing what you’re doing – because, I think you’re doing an a-okay job! Much love!! xo

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    Maddie Reed
    May 8, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    What a wonderful post!! I sat down this morning and wrote a letter from my 2 year old daughter. I am 8 months pregnant with another little girl and have been so worried lately how Lucy would adjust to the new baby. Pregnancy is very difficult for me, so I haven’t be able to do a lot of the activities I want to do with Lucy anymore. I can tell she is missing out on Mama time. It made me feel so much better to think about it from her point of view and know that she understands that I can’t keep up some days. Thank you for encouraging us Mamas to write these letters. I know years down the road, I’ll look back on it and be so happy to have it!

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      amy @amy+mayd
      May 9, 2013 at 9:32 pm

      I am in the Exact same boat. 8 months pregnant with my second daughter.. I feel so bad because I am having a hard time keeping up as well. Good to know I am not alone. 🙂 Congrats on #2!

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    May 8, 2013 at 2:11 pm

    Not sure how many times or ways that I can tell you how much I love your writing. But this is perfection. Sawyer is the cutest. Ever. And he is so lucky to have you as his momma. xo

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    May 8, 2013 at 2:11 pm

    Not sure how many times or ways that I can tell you how much I love your writing. But this is perfection. Sawyer is the cutest. Ever. And he is so lucky to have you as his momma. Oh and Wesley too (of course!) xo

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    May 8, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    Oh my gosh – I had never seen that commercial before – now tears are running down my face…

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    May 8, 2013 at 4:51 pm

    I love this! I posted my own Dear Mom letter on my blog ( Thanks for always being so willing to share such personal and beautiful thoughts. Your blog is one of my favorites!

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    bruce b.
    May 8, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    Pretty awesome Ashley, thank you for sharing, love reading about your experiences with your beautiful babies, simply thank you! (And keep up the goodness flowing with you “Little Miss Mama!” Love it!

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    May 8, 2013 at 5:29 pm

    Lots of tears reading, this, even more watching that darn commercial!! I am such a sap these days. We found out recently that we are pregnant with #2, my first is just 2 years old. I already worry about not being able to spend enough time with the new baby, when I have a crazy active toddler running circles around me. But this post gives me hope. Thank you for sharing the sweetest parts of your heart with all of us. It means a lot.

    love, Misty

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    Kristen W
    May 8, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    As a soon-to-be-first-time-mom, this makes my eyes water…. 😉

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    May 8, 2013 at 7:12 pm

    Wow. Way to bring in the water works. Thank you, that was beautiful and you are amazing with words!

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    May 8, 2013 at 7:15 pm

    I love this!!! I am so going to have to write one from my kids. It is so heartfelt and true. I could hear my kids saying the same things about me. You have inspired me!!!

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    May 8, 2013 at 8:19 pm

    Your blog is my fav! And I just think that there is a depth of love and vulnerability you don’t experience until you are a mother. Your experiences really make us all feel like we aren’t alone in this! Thanks for being so personal. I cried while reading this post, and I wrote my own letter during nap time, and cried some more. I’m going to write the letter in my 18 month old’s scrapbook I’m making online. Thanks for the inspiration! You are a great person and a great mom! 🙂

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    Amber Gillespie
    May 9, 2013 at 1:45 am

    I love this post! Such a cute idea!

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    May 9, 2013 at 2:08 am

    Sawyer sure knows how to write as I wipe my tears away. This is really beautiful.

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    May 9, 2013 at 2:09 am

    Such a beautiful idea and touching way of writing. I’m inspired after reading it and teary thinking of my sweet boy’s own words to me. Thank you for posting something I was glad I read,

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    Michelle mollner
    May 9, 2013 at 3:58 am

    I finally just got to read this and after a very special day with these two boys…….. I am ……. I mean …….. Just …. No words! I love these boys more then words could ever express!

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    May 9, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Your awesome…that is all : )

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    amy @amy+mayd
    May 9, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    Love this post Ashley, thank you so much for your honesty! You inspired my post for today. Love your blog!

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    May 21, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    You bring tears to my eyes every time. And always right when I need it.
    Sometimes I feel like I’m not “on track” with the whole life thing. Those times when I yearn for the family. For the babies and the craziness and all the joy.
    But I read what you write and realize… all in good time. Because I want to appreciate it all like you can. And I know I’m not there yet.
    Thank you for your words sweet friend. And hopefully one day, I can wrap you in a hug, share a little giggle and just know that you get me.

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